From Shame to Strategy: How to Train Your Brain to Fail Smarter

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Shame doesn’t just feel painful—it disrupts your brain’s ability to learn from setbacks and grow stronger. In this video, discover how shame affects your brain and practical, science-backed tools to move beyond self-criticism and toward resilience. You’ll learn to shift your thinking, manage intense emotions, and bounce forward after mistakes.

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Chapters
00:00 – Why shame keeps you stuck
01:35 – What shame does to your brain
03:02 – Guilt vs. shame: the neurological difference
03:40 – Break the shame loop: 4 tools that work
03:44 – Tool #1: Naming your emotions (Affect Labeling)
04:23 – Tool #2: Self-compassion as a cognitive reboot
05:04 – Tool #3: Shift your narrative identity
06:10 – Tool #4: Emotional distancing and the observer mindset
07:35 – BONUS tools: Third-person self-talk & time distancing
07:56 – The Shame Recovery Loop (4-step practice)
08:48 – Take it deeper: Add reflection to rewire faster
09:31 – Fail smarter, not harder: key takeaway
10:06 – Challenge for the week: Try the loop
10:40 – What’s next: Rewiring thought patterns for resilience

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